“Dear Addy, please help. What do I do when I’m having trouble with a resident in my dorm, and my RA is too afraid to knock on their door? Sincerely, Court’s Conundrum”
Dear Court’s Conundrum,
First, I am sorry to hear that you are having trouble within your Residence Hall. This can be very hard and taxing, but rest assured! There are a few things you can do in this situation:
I suggest that the first thing you do is ask your RA to talk. Find a time during the day to sit down with your RA and explain how you feel. Explain that you do not know what to do and ask if there is anything the RA can do to help, or even if they can go with you to talk to the resident that you are having trouble with.
Remember, you can also always reach out to another RA, if necessary. If this does not work, I suggest you make time to meet with your area coordinator, Colin Seifrit, to discuss how to approach the situation.
Another thing you can do in this scenario is reach out to the resident and find a time to sit and talk. During this time I would bring up what is bothering you, and try to see if you can find some sort of compromise. The resident may not realize that they are doing something that is creating a problem for you. This is worth a try, because the resident may be more open to change if Residence Life is not involved.
If the problem with the resident is that they are being loud past quiet hours, an easy fix can be to call security and make a noise complaint. When you call security and make a noise complaint, security will call the RA on duty and send them over to the room to ask the resident to quiet down.
I would suggest that you first reach out to either your RA or the resident before contacting security, because this all could potentially be solved by sitting down and having a conversation with the resident.